🍣 F*cking around, fear, (re)framing pride

3 sweet slices + 4 extra spicy ones.

Hey friends,

I go through phases, you know.

Sometimes i am big on stream of consciousness writing.

Other times, if something doesn’t fit 280 characters, it’s too long and faffy.

This week, my energy is on the latter so let’s get to it.

But first… ICYMI, i got featured on Google Firestarters!

Nerdy about planning, parenting and the things in-between?

Then this one’s for ya.

Ok.

NOW let’s get to it.

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1/ Expectations vs reality in planning

What people think my job is:

Fucking around for no reason.

What my job really is:

Fucking around for a very specific reason.

You could even call planning Applied Fucking Around.

Trademark pending.

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2/ Are you proud?

We often assume our job is to make our bosses proud.

What if instead their job is to make us proud?

By leading by example, so we can model them?

This feels true for parenting too.

Don’t expect your kids to make you proud.

Behave in ways they’d be proud of you.

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3/ Future fears are in the past

The best way to handle fear?

Study your past fears.

This is why therapy can help.

It doesn't solve all problems.

But it helps you articulate where they might come from.

As Donald Winnicott says:

“The catastrophe you fear will happen has already happened.”

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